The trouble with pregnancy loss.

Today was the due date for our first Angel Baby. Had our little bean not been lost, we would have been making preparations for their 14th birthday party. For 14 years now this date has come around and each time it prompts me to engage in some reflection. It’s not an upsetting time for me…

Last year, to celebrate our wedding anniversary, my husband arranged an overnight trip to the venue where we were married. This was the first time we had visited since our wedding day (now 20 years ago!). I was thrilled that he had been so thoughtful as to arrange this and I was very much looking…

Through all the reading I have done over the years (mostly online), I have come to notice how much of the narrative surrounding the experience of pregnancy loss is geared towards heterosexual couples (and specifically women). I must confess that this blog and my book are also geared towards heterosexual couples (and even then, predominantly…

The above is a quote from my book which I wrote when exploring the difficulties with returning to work following the loss of a pregnancy. Unfortunately, after my second pregnancy loss, my mental health had spiralled so out of control it made a long-term return to work impossible. The lack of concern for parents following…

It really isn’t! The one thing that is in my favour is that I am writing from my own experience. Pregnancy loss is something that I know a bit about. That helps of course. I also don’t have to worry about being particularly creative which is another thing to be grateful for, because J.K Rowling…

But you are not alone. According to the charity Tommy’s (www.tommys.org), ‘In the UK, it is estimated that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss during pregnancy or birth’. That is a very large number! So why does it feel like such a lonely experience? In 2009 I sadly lost 2 pregnancies, the first was a Miscarriage,…